Hi friends & new subscribers,
Are you enjoying the summer as I am?
For the past two weeks, I've been slowly catching up with my childhood and university friends. Our city is finally letting us meet people outside of our circles. Being an online creator has made me feel isolated for the past ten months.
I forgot how fun it is actually to socialize in real life.
As I spend time with these friends in real life, I realize how important it is to nurture them. If you find a friend or two that you really like, there's very little benefit in looking for new friends. It's more important to develop a deep relationship with those you want to be part of your life for a long time.
Did you know that you only need about three to five friends to feel happy in your life? Research says so.
This tip goes the same for the people that you also meet online. Once you find one or two Internet friends that you want to connect with, you don't need to be friends with everyone. (You probably won't want to, either)
It's more important to find and be friends with the people who can support and understand you throughout your journey.
On Embracing the Boringness in Your Journey
I have a confession.
These days, I'm pretty bored of my online journey. I'm not struggling, and definitely where I expect myself to be, but I also feel okay. My Twitter feed is full of people regurgitating the same information about writing, marketing and the creator economy. I've had an on-and-off relationship with TikTok, believing that I need to be in it to be a successful creator.
But, I also think it's my brain tricking me into putting me on the struggle bus.
For the past nine months, I've struggled a lot as a creator. I learned how to overcome my limiting beliefs of fear of judgment, fear of failure, fear of success, and generally not being good enough. And there’s a lot of inner work that has happened to show up the way that I do now.
I've come far, and I'm proud of where I am now.
But these days, I'm bored as I wait for the clients I cold pitch in my freelance journey. I find myself wanting to jump onto new things like creating a YouTube channel (or TikTok), even though I said I'd focus on writing in my first year as a creator.
So how can you embrace the boringness in your journey?
I think that it's important to recognize that it's part of life. There are days where you struggle, and there are days where you will get results. And there are days where you will get bored.
When boredom happens, an opportunity exists.
It's a chance for you to look at how far you've come, a chance for self-reflection. Or it's also a time to start strategizing on your new growth strategy. Whether you're trying to grow as a person or grow your social media presence.
And because you aren't stressed or not struggling, you have the advantage of taking the time to figure things out.
Naval Ravikant, a famous rich investor, once said in a podcast interview that people need to take one or two days of doing absolutely nothing.
Because when you're bored, you become more creative.
My question for you this week:
What are the feelings that are uncomfortable for me, and how can I embrace them today?
PS. I have no links to share this week as I haven’t written on Medium for the past two to three weeks. I’m hoping to get back to it this week as I restart the writing routine that I worked so hard for.
I hope that you all are having a good summer so far.
As always, I'd love to know your feedback, questions or comments, so don't hesitate to reply here or by DM-ing me on Twitter. 🙂