Hi friends,
Thank you so much for those who read, replied and commented on my last newsletter.
It made me feel loved.
So, my husband and I finally moved into our new place. It's honestly been such a surreal experience.
We moved into a 4-bedroom, 3-bathroom house. Our backyard is pretty cool because it directly connects to a big park with trails and a pond. So, every day, we get to walk in this beautiful area to appreciate life.
I'd never thought of myself as someone who can live in a house, let alone in a 4-bedroom house.
When I was young, I lived in a tiny house in Manila, Philippines. There were multiple bedrooms, but three or four people were cramped into each bedroom. There were no bed frames, just twin or double-sized mattresses on the floor. We’d have to roll them up or lean them on the wall so we could use the floors in the mornings.
Ironically, I never felt poor because we always had food on the table. I never felt like something was lacking. And we had a happy family.
So for me, living in a big, fancy house was never appealing. I always thought, "I don't want to live in a big house because that will be so hard to clean."
Yet today, here we are.
My husband and I have our own offices, a space for my YouTube studio, and a large kitchen I'm excited to cook in.
I wondered in the last few days, "How did I get here? How did I get to this place because I certainly never dreamed of this, but boy, I'm happy to be here."
I think the answer is that I accidentally manifested my dream life.
It was an accident because I didn't think I'd *actually* get here, let alone this quickly.
Let me explain.
If you're on a personal development journey, you've most likely heard of the visualization exercise. Occasionally, I'd do my "ideal life or perfect day" visualization exercise.
Even if I didn't believe it, it was a fun exercise because after all, who doesn't love to dream about their dream life? It's free and you have nothing to lose.
Doing this exercise, here's what my ideal or "perfect" day looked like:
I'd wake up, go for a walk, and make coffee and breakfast in a really nice kitchen. And then I'd spend my morning doing some creative work. Then, I'll cook for my husband and myself. In the afternoon, we'd go for another walk, do our own stuff like reading, and do other quality time together.
Simple, right? It's something we were already doing in our previous place.
The problem was that our old environment didn't give me the same feeling of joy in my ideal life. My husband works from home and he has a lot of meetings. Cooking while he was in meetings meant loud pans in the kitchen. That made him anxious in his meetings. I also sometimes heard his voice while I was filming for YouTube. In short, it always felt uncomfortable and cramped even though we lived in a 2-bedroom condo. (Of course, there were other little things)
In the long run, those little annoyances that we brush off would be terrible for our relationship. It doesn't feel like a big deal now, but later, we'd have huge fights and we probably wouldn't know where it came from.
So we justified our move by saying that we need more space even though there are only two of us.
Anyway, in the last week we've been in the new place, our relationship has improved.
Our day consists of my ideal or perfect day *for the most part.*
Although I didn't precisely manifest a 4-bedroom house, the feelings associated with my *perfect day* exercise have somehow helped in what kind of house we need to get.
On my ideal day, I felt at peace, calm, and joy.
In short, we needed a lot more space to experience these.
So, if you're not getting what you want, maybe try focusing on the feelings you want to experience when you finally get that thing.
I'm no expert in manifesting but this was a pretty cool experience I'll forever cherish.
Is there anything you're stuck with when trying to get what you want in life?
‘Till next time,
J 💛